This is the second of Nadia Wyatt’s monthly blogs helping you make 2012 a year to remember for all the right reasons.

Everything in your life is there because you chose it. I know it is sometimes hard to believe that particularly if things are not going your way or if bad things seem to be happening at the moment. But the law of attraction works for all of us in the same way even if bad things seem to be happening. So how can you change your life so that you start attracting good things, the nice things, the things that you want in your life? The first step is to start to visualise a life, a future where your desires are fulfilled. But how can you start to do that?

Ö The first thing you need to do is list what it is you want to achieve. This may sound easy, but until you start to really focus on it, you discover it is not really that easy.

Ö So to help you, you need to begin to visualise actually achieving your ambitions. The more you can visualise your desires, the more you can begin to imagine achieving them.

Ö Start to set your ‘GOALS’ by looking at all the areas in your life and scoring them out of 10 (0 being least satisfied and 10 most satisfied).

© Partner/relationship

© Work/career

© Personal growth/personal development

© Leisure time

© Money/wealth

© Friends/family

© Health/fitness

© Home/physical surrounding

Ö Ask yourself:

© what would I do differently if money and time were at my disposal?

© what would I do differently if I knew I could not fail?

Ö Now you can begin to set your goals:

© Be extremely specific – it is no use setting a vague goal as it will not be achievable!

© Your goal(s) must be measurable – otherwise how will you know you are on track?

© Your goal must be achievable – it is better to set small steps than big steps which you know you will never be able to achieve.

© Be realistic – set your goals too high and you are setting yourself up for failure; set your goals too low and you will be bored!

© Set a time limit – without a time limit your ambitions will just always be a dream. A clear time frame means there is no room for procrastination.

Nadia Wyatt is a Clinical Psychotherapist from Goals Solutions

Life coaching can help you when you want to make personal or career changes, by enabling you to reach your goals faster and transforming your relationships in the process. Over the next 12 months, I will be exploring different areas and issues, providing you with the Psychotherapeutic tools that you can use in all areas of your life, to strengthen the foundations on which you can build change. I hope you will find the monthly blogs of interest and helpful to you and your family. If you wish to explore any of these areas or issues in more detail, please visit my website or contact me directly.

January – make 2012 a year to remember for the right reasons

Too often we accept ourselves as we are and just say to ourselves “it’s just the way things are for me; I can’t help it; it always happens to me; nothing ever seems to go right for me….” does this sound familiar? But most of us would like to explore new experiences, embrace the nice things in life, find the new “ME” but don’t know where or how to start. Make 2012 the year where you find the “new you” instead of being stuck in the old rut of 2011. But where can you start?? Begin by asking yourself the following questions:

© What do I dream about often?

© What experiences from the past do I keep reliving in my imagination?

© When was the last time I cried?

© What bugs me and bores me and what excites me?

We don’t realise that it’s our habits, our thought, our feelings and our comfort zones that stop us from achieving our goals and dreams. But how can we break out of our comfort zones and stop our negative, debilitating thoughts?

Ö Get support – find someone who is impartial/unbiased whom you can talk to honestly about what you want to achieve.

Ö Be brave – it can be daunting to think about trying something new if you are comfortable but not happy with what you have currently got. In other words, if you are living in an unhappy relationship but scared to make a change, may be 2012 is the year for you to explore what you have always dreamed of.

Ö Make a note of your fears – if you want to find your self-esteem and your confidence, you are going to have to stop falling into guilt traps and pleasing people all the time. Remember, you are just as important as the person you are always trying to please.

Ö Don’t procrastinate – don’t put off till tomorrow what you can do today. Make 2012 the year to remember for all the right things.

This is the first in a series of  guest blog posts for 2012 from Clinical Psychotherapist Nadia Wyatt from Goals Solutions

I watched One Born Every Minute tonight and was crying before the credits had even finished. It’s been this way since having kids… actually since getting pregnant with Felix, now I come to think about it. I’ve always been one for crying at silly things, Rolf’s Pet Rescue, or whatever it was called, for example. Now though,it’s just ridiculous. Anything to do with babies will set me off. Baby Jake on CBeebies makes me cry because it’s just so very lovely. Oh and I cry at weddings too. Considering I am not a girly girl at all I was blubbing when one of my best friends Georgina walked down the aisle and saying to my husband ‘oh, she’s just so beautiful (sob sob)’. I attempt to hold it together sometimes but with people who know what I’m like I do tend to just let go (poor hubby). I really am a massive, massive wuss.

But the thing is, I don’t think it’s just me. Other Mums I know say they are the same. Why? Is it just from the responsibility of being a parent, and if so, why aren’t all Dads blubbering wrecks too? Is it another odd hormonal thing, completely beyond our control? Whatever it is, it is strange, and it doesn’t seem to be going away.